Date Me?
I was listening to the radio earlier and the DJs were discussing dating. The dating topic was girls asking guys out. I was kind of surprised that a majority, a good majority, thought it was a great idea and had no problems with it. So, I just found myself curious as to your thoughts on the topic.
How do you feel about girls asking guys out? How about girls proposing to guys? If your answer for the last two questions differs, why? Is the whole guys asking the girl thing just old school and traditional; or is there a scriptural argument here? Why is it that you think so many girls are asking out guys now and why are guys receiving it?
I would live to hear your thoughts…
– How do you feel about girls asking guys out? –
Not a big fan of it if I don’t know a girl. If a girl asks me out on a date intentionally I usually say no and consider asking her later. However I don’t mind a girl giving me a hint that she is interested in me or wants to spend more time with me. It’s a simple difference of “it’d be fun to spend more time with you!” and “you should take me on a date.” The later implies so much more about who the girl is and what she thinks of relationships. The first is totally okay IMO.
– How about girls proposing to guys? –
No way. If this ever happened to me I’m fairly confident I freak out. But if I didn’t see this coming, or failed to set up the proper boundaries with the girl to let her know it’s not okay then it would probably be my fault.
– Why is it that you think so many girls are asking out guys now and why are guys receiving it? –
Because guys can be really lame and lack the courage to ask a girl out. In general, guys are fairly lazy, and girls can generally be more confident in matters of relationships. But this still doesn’t make it okay for the girl to pursue the guy. Guys are easily swayed by any girl who is confident in who she is and shows it by giving attraction to a guy, and while the first few dates may be fun after the girl asks the guy out, in the end the relationship probably won’t work out because the guy based his decision on the girls attraction to him and not his confidence or thought process behind wanting to date the girl.
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In general I see this current issue in our society as a depolarization of gender roles. Girls are doing what guys should be doing, and guys are okay with it. Guys are doing what girls should be doing, and girls are okay with it. The only problem is that neither side should be okay with it, because it’s slowly rotting away our cultures understanding of manhood and womanhood at the core. God clearly created men to live their life a certain way because of the qualities he gave us, and He also created women to live a certain way because of how he made them. This depolarization of gender roles that we’re currently seeing is really sad to see in my opinion, and I hope we don’t pass it on to the next generation.